A former colleague, recently laid off and struggling, asked me to write a glowing, slightly embellished reference for a job they're highly unqualified for; do I help them despite honesty concerns?

Benjamín Monroy

Benjamín Monroy

Write the embellished reference9 votes (39%)
Decline, citing ethics5 votes (22%)
Offer honest, measured praise4 votes (17%)
Suggest other forms of help5 votes (22%)

23 votes total • Created 1/5/2026

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